Facing anxiety while travelling .

Basically my forever mantra for life. The first step in managing anxiety while traveling is to DO IT. Anxiety can cause us to stop dead in our tracks and to believe that we CAN’T travel or take that plane ride or be away from home for that long. But that’s absolute and complete BS. Seriously.

Yes, you’ll probably be scared and yes it might be uncomfortable at first. But we feel that fear and we do the thing anyway. We live our lives anyway. Then and only then can we see that it actually wasn’t that bad and that yes, we can do this.

I had a moment towards the end of the trip when I realized: it’s never anxiety that is stopping me from doing what I want to do. It’s ME. I’m the one stopping myself by believing I can’t.

Anxiety is never stopping you. It may feel like it, but it’s really YOU that’s stopping you. Anxiety itself has never stopped anyone from doing anything. It’s our reaction and our beliefs in relation to the anxiety that causes us to stop ourselves. How do I know this?

Because many people have anxiety and they still travel. They still get married or have the baby or take the new job or sleep alone or whatever. So fear itself isn’t the problem. It’s just what we choose to do with it. Do we choose to let it rule our lives and dictate what we can and can’t do? Or do we feel the fear and do what we want anyway?

-There are no such things as safe zones

This is HUGE. I had to remind myself of this over and over again throughout the trip. I’d have little moments where I realized how far away I was from home. It showed me just how arbitrary our “safe zones” are.

Anxiety makes us believe that it’s somehow safer for us to be panicking at home than it would be to panic on a plane. Or that it’s safer to have anxiety at the hotel than out and about in the city.

It’s just not true. Whether we happen to panic at home or somewhere far, far away, the physiological response is exactly the same. Anxiety is just a physiological chain of events that make us feel very scared but where we are when this happens makes no difference whatsoever.

It helped for me to remind myself that it doesn’t matter where I am. If panic were to come, I could handle it no matter where it was. I could ride it out and breathe no matter what. We

carry our tools WITH us.

-Stay and breathe

Another response anxiety loves to elicit is the desire to flee and run. If we’re in a situation and we begin to feel overwhelming anxiety, all we want to do it get out of there to somewhere where we’ll feel “safer.”

What I’ve learned is to just stay and breathe.

As soon as we bolt, we teach our bodies that it WAS a dangerous situation and that we needed to get out in order to feel better. When in reality, if we had stayed and breathed, we would have seen that our body would have naturally calmed down anyway.

“stay and breathe.”

(We don’t really have the option to get off on an airplane so it’s actually a great lesson in this).

How many times do we abort a situation too soon? Stay and breathe and you CAN handle it.

-Who cares? And more self-talk

I don’t know how many times I told myself, “who cares?!”  on this trip. Every time I had a thought like, “what if I panic on the plane?” Or “what if this or that?” I’d respond lovingly with, “who cares?” Because truly, who cares?

So what if I have a panic attack while traveling? I’d calm down eventually. I’ve had many, many attacks before and they always ended and I survived, no matter how bad they got. I would get really, really scared and then it would pass. I wouldn’t die. I wouldn’t go crazy. I know what it is. So, truly, so what? Who cares?

Self-talk is such a big part of managing my negative thinking. I’ve learned to respond in a way that is wise, loving, and rational. How can we talk to our scared selves from our highest, wisest self?

And after I soothe myself with positive self-talk, I refocus my attention onto something else so that the fearful thoughts become uninteresting and just fall away.

I was beyond terrified to take this trip and in the end, I haven’t felt that present, peaceful, in love, and in awe in years- maybe even ever! It was my favorite trip I’ve ever taken and just to think that I could have missed out on it due to fear makes me sad.

Never underestimate your own strength. You are strong enough to do whatever you want to do. You are powerful and capable and so worthy of all you could dream of.